Who Makes the First Move?
ME is all about letting the other guy make the first move. MO is all for initiating. With a hetero couple it seems a little easier to tell who should initiate, but when the couple is smae-sex, who makes the first move?
ME: I never make the first move.
MO: No wonder you’re a born again virgin.
ME: I never make the first move because I’m fucking adorable.
MO: Okay, there are several things wrong with that statement. I’m not saying that you have to make the first move EVERY time, but there are times when it would be beneficial if you actually did.
MO: If you never ask someone out then you just slowed down the process of meeting a special someone, or missing that opportunity entirely because you were too proud or shy to make the first move.
ME: Well, maybe it’s them who are missing out, not me. I do encourage guys to make the first move. I give them hints. I know how to flirt…most of the time.
MO: ‘Most of the time’ being after how many drinks?
ME: About three or four.
MO: You can lead a horse to water but you can’t make it drink. You can drop all the hints you want, but that doesn’t always mean someone is gonna pick them up. There are times to be flirty and subtle and then there are times to be bold and direct.
ME: All I’m saying is that I don’t make the first move because I’m shy. I’m not conceited. Just to clarify. And it just so happens that guys make the first move. And if they don’t, I’m fine either way.
MO: So there has been a time when you wanted to go out with a guy but didn’t because you were too shy to ask? And it felt like the he just passed you by.
MO: I bet there was a time when you wish you had made the first move and didn’t.
ME: Sure with Joe what’s his name from Magic Mike and True Blood. But seriously, there have been cute guys I’ve seen and wanted to flirt with. #TooShy.
MO: The thing is, there is a time when you should shake off the shyness and make the first move. It’s like going for a job. There are times when you are gifted with an opportunity and then there are times when you have to go get them! Dating is that way. You gotta put your fears aside and just talk.
ME: So are you saying I am missing out on something by not initiating?
MO: I am saying that there are probably opportunities you have missed because you sat back instead of acting.
ME: So does that mean you are always initiating?
MO: Not always. There are times I am either too shy or am just fed up with doing all the chasing, so I sit back and see if the bait catches any fishies. But if I see a guy I am really into or curious about, I do take the time to start things off because I would rather have an “Oh Well” moment than a “What if” moment.
ME: But I don’t think or worry about the “Oh well” or “What ifs”. If he isn’t willing to try when I’m there then it’s not worth thinking about.
MO And if you are okay with that fine, but just remember that if you keep doing the same thing you will always have the same results. At some point, you may find that you will need to initiate and it’s good to practice, especially since you are a shy guy.
ME: But you make it sound like I’m complaining about it. I’m not. I’m just saying I don’t have to.
MO: No, I know you aren’t complaining. Just letting you know that life could be a bit more colorful and you could have more stories to share if you just stepped outside your shy, little box now and again.
ME: But I’m adorable, I don’t need to.
MO: That’s fine. Whatever you say.
What about you guys? Do you agree with ME or are you Mo? Let us know in the comments if ME should change his way of thinking.