Real Sex vs. Porn?

Fine, we’re just gonna say it: PORN. You watch it; don’t lie. No biggie though. Or is it? In a relationship is porn the ultimate aid or just an excuse to stop trying.This isn’t a serious study, just a simple discussion about real sex versus porn!

ME: I don’t see anything wrong with watching porn. It can be healthy, especially when you’ve been in a relationship that seems to be going stale. It not only stimulates stimulates your imagination with your partner, it also stimulates your penis.

MO: It’s not that it’s bad per se, but I really don’t think porn helps imagination. It tends to take the creativity away from someone.You watch porn, the sex is up there…unrealistic sex…and you don’t have to really take time to think about how you would spice up your sex life.

ME: I think it’s healthy, when you’re in a long term relationship to explore, and porn is there for that reason.

MO: So the producers at Gag the Fag are doing that to help out a couple of 20+ years?

ME: It depends on what kind of imagination you’ve got. Some people get into a routine of how they pleasure their partner and maybe gagging someone…(Laugh)…will reignite their sexual fire.

MO: Well, there needs to be major comfort if you’re gonna ask your partner to gag you with his cock or maybe shove his fist up your hole. And see, this is what porn does! It takes your own ideas and kicks em out of your head and puts in these unrealistic or extreme situations instead. And all of a sudden, instead of being creative, you’re a Juicy Boys hack.

ME: Would you rather have your partner watch porn by himself?

Austin Wolf
Porn Star Austin Wolf was certainly present and real that day!

MO: No, personally I would rather not have porn in my relationship. I want a partner that is willing to tell me his fantasies and explore sex together without inviting in Austin Wolf, as hot as his ass is…Porn just takes away from the present and the real.

ME: No one is saying to watch porn every time you have sex. You use it when you want to explore new things. And I’m NOT talking about putting a cone up your ass! EW

MO: Porn is addictive and I’m saying if you have to invite it in to your relationship, you’re not being imaginative it’s like inviting in a third person…

ME: Porn is supplemental.

MO: Look at you and your big words!

MO:. You want to supplement and soon you’re supplanted. Porn just creates a mess of unrealistic expectations. You get into a relationship so you don’t have to look at porn. You have your porn now.

ME: No. You’re wrong.

MO: How am I wrong?

ME: And all I said is porn is just an extra. It isn’t gonna dominate your daily sexual life with your partner. You watch it when you’re feeling the need for a little extra kink.

MO: I think if you want extra kink then how about talking with your partner and coming with something instead of letting Colby Jansen’s hot ass come up with it for you?

ME: You seem to be referencing a lot of porn stars so I’m going to assume you watch a lot of porn, and you’re saying it’s not healthy in a relationship. However, you should be speaking to your partner about watching porn, and not just putting it up in his face. You say: “hey, why don’t we watch porn tonight to get roused up. And maybe we’ll see something we like. Cones not included.”

MO: I do watch my fair share.. But I am single so, it’s a moot point. I do have this one “Friend” that likes to have porn on while we….get “friendly”. I don’t say anything because we aren’t a couple, but when it’s on I wonder if he is watching it or paying attention to what I’m doing to him. And that is my point. It detracts from reality and that isn’t good for a relationship, especially if you’re trying to get it going again.

ME: You’re assuming that there is something wrong with the relationship. Porn can open new possibilities in the relationship, in exploring each other’s bodies, in a way you haven’t done before.

MO: Have you watched porn? It’s all pretty much the same. And that does suggest that a person has no imagination if they have to use porn.

ME: You’re assuming the person doesn’t have imagination.

MO: Um, yes I am. That is my point.

ME: Yes, porn is unrealistic, 90%, no 80% of gay men don’t look like that. Most of them don’t have these big ol cocks or chiseled abs, but the reason we might turn to it is to look at something that is different from us. It doesn’t mean we aren’t physically attracted to our partner. It just means we want to look at someone who is a lot sexier than US.

MO: Well, in the end I still think it sucks the

Whatever yourself
Whatever yourself when YOU want to!

imagination out of people, so you’re wrong.

ME: Whatever.

MO: Whatever yourself.

ME: I already whatever’d myself this morning…with porn! And it was goooood.

 

Are you #TeamMe, is porn okay in the relationship? Or are you #TeamMo, no porn! Let us know you’re view in the comments!

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One Comment

  1. I certainly can see “Me”‘s point of view, to an extent. But, I agree more with “Mo” on this one. I’m single (well, I have a Saudi Arabian FWB, whom I love very much, but, he’s in an arranged marriage [fuck that!!]…but that’s a whole other painful, heartbreaking topic), so I use porn many times to jerk off when I’m solo and can’t be with him (which is most of the time). Otherwise, he turns me on soooooo much, that I absolutely would NOT want to have porn playing. We have been seeing each other for four years now, and every time we have sex, it’s like the first time, only better each time. Porn would actually be a major distraction for both of us I think. I know at least for me it would be. I actually know that he looks at porn also when he’s alone, and that’s fine, I expect it. But I also know what kind of guy is more his “type” in the porn, and it certainly ain’t me. In a way, it can sometimes be a downer to my ego, and I feel that it can put a strain on our relationship (maybe it’s just on my part, I don’t know), even though I know he certainly has no problem being aroused with me.

    I don’t buy the reasoning that porn can give you new ideas, at least when you’re with each other and having sex. When I’m with someone sexually, I want to be concentrating solely on him, and I want the same of him. You should be communicating with each other one on one. Porn, to me, except when I’m by myself, is the ultimate anti-aphrodisiac.

    But then…different strokes for different folks I guess. Maybe I’m just kind of “square”.

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